Cuddling is a lot of fun for some people. Yes, you read that right. Some people. While there are many different variations — big spoon, little spoon, honeymoon hug (when you're completely wrapped around one another, appearing as though you'll never let go), and the grab (when you're just kind of sprawled out and barely touching), for example —not all people enjoy cuddling.
If you would really like to know whether or not your partner enjoys cuddling, open up the discussion. If they don't return the same enthusiasm for cuddling, the reason could be as simple as 'it's just too hot.' It could also be as deep as intimacy issues, and that's something that can be worked on.
If you need a little time to build up the courage, here's some information on cuddling to keep you afloat. While we've included some signs to help you understand your relationship, note that they may not apply to every relationship.
Cuddling can help strengthen the bond between two partners.
Sometimes, your bodies just naturally fit together and you feel an equal exchange of energy. It feels warm and magical.
In addition to keeping you warm, it can also make you happier.
When you touch someone, there’s a release of the hormones dopamine and serotonin. This can help boost your mood and curb depression.
Continue reading for some signs that your partner enjoys cuddling with you.
Some of us have aggressive partners and we don't have to guess whether or not they enjoy cuddling.
It’s clear to us that they want to, because they’re outwardly affectionate. If they’re not saying it out loud, they’re directing the cuddling session.
Sometimes, they'll naturally embrace you while in bed.
Styles vary. While some partners are aggressive, others fall into a cuddling position. Some people won’t inch closer until they get really sleepy.
They whisper sweet nothings in your ear.
Okay, this one sounds a bit cheesy but there are people who do and enjoy this, especially in bed. Sometimes it’s sexual and sometimes it’s romantic. Whispering goes perfectly well with both cuddling and sex, so they may want one, the other, or both.
It’s best to learn about your partner’s needs and to communicate your own so that both of you aren’t constantly wondering what the other wants like some sort of game. How do you do that? Observe and talk about it openly.