Men and women can give thousands of reasons justifying the reason for an affair. Regardless of the whys, the betrayal is painful and gut-wrenching. Everything about the relationship gets questioned and once the confidence placed in the union is lost, it’s almost impossible to get it back.
Carlie Maree is a writer and life coach. She is not afraid to share her feelings and opinions in a raw and honest way on her blog. Last year she went through a difficult and painful journey after she received an email from her husband’s mistress. Carlie did not reply back to the letter listing everything that occurred during the affair until now.
She does not edit herself in her response but does so without hate or blame. Instead, she looks ahead. She uses this situation as a learning experience where she will grow from.
So much happened in a year after receiving an email from her husband's mistress. She is not sure why but after a year she decided to reply back to the mistress.
The woman’s email did not just change the wife’s life but everyone that is important. “Mine, my husband’s, my daughter’s, both our parents and families, our friends,” wrote Carlee.
The scorned mistress's letter was so detailed and thorough, the goal of it left Carlee wondering why the woman chose to do this.
“I often wonder what was going through your mind at that moment, how much of it was revenge against a man who broke your heart and how much of it was you trying to do the right thing for his wife.”
This woman knew what she had to say and how to say to make it hurt.
Her words were the kind of words that make reconciliation practically impossible.
It seemed the other woman knew so much about Carlee.
“I wonder how much you knew about me. I know that you looked me up online, read my blog, saw my pictures. I wonder whether you knew that I’d be at work that day when I received your email, cryptically entitled ‘Your husband,’” wrote Carlee.
Carlee admits she had no idea her husband was carrying a love affair. She had asked him before and he dismissed her question so she didn't think anything of it afterwards.
Things had changed between them but it was part of life. Who does not have a relationship that goes through dry spells?